Saturday, 6 February 2010


Something to make you feel warm and fuzzy inside...

A Graceful Man, A Gentleman

...One of the things I mentioned yesterday, was the "manner" of a person. "Manner" or "grace" is not something that you can learn from a book. Unfortunately, it is something you just have to be or to develop. A great scene of modern grace on '30 Rock' the other day: Liz and Jack went out to dinner at a very chic restaurant. As they sat down at the table, Jack immediately moved the candle from the center of the setting to the side of the table. Liz looked at him kinda funny, not understanding why he did that but, not really caring either. Later, however, when Liz reached across the table to steal some of Jack's food (as she always does), she realized he moved the candle so her sleeve wouldn't catch fire when she reached across the table. Jack's manner and grace were so attuned to her as a friend, that he knew her moves before she did.

That tiny gesture ended up becoming the pivotal moment of the episode and changed the course of their business relationship. I'm telling you guys again, women notice the small stuff. They notice the gentleness/gentlemenliness more than if you use the right fork at dinner. I'm a very lucky man, Garance notices every little kindness I offer her, she doesn't miss a thing. Knowing that makes it so much more rewarding to do even more little things for her. I'll be honest, my biggest obsession in life right now is not better shoes, more suits or a bigger career but, to simply be a more graceful man for my graceful woman...

[Image By Edouard Plongeon]

This whole idea of grace can also be applied to the way you carry yourself, obviously, that is one of its very definitions. Sometimes it's not what you wear, it's how you wear it...the way you walk, how comfortable you look. There is nothing more unattractive than seeing a girl hobbling along in 6 inch heels without grace...and there is nothing better than feeling comfortable with what you are wearing and who you are surrounded by. It's that extra bit of consideration, whether it's with Fashion, Friends or Relationships...the smallest effort can make the biggest difference.

1 comment:

  1. it was such a beautiful post! makes me open my eyes a bit wider...